Within the animal world, man has a special place, as we know, and such is the case also regarding sexuality.

 

It is the weakest of all mammals and one of the most endangered. His inability to cope with the dangers threatening his survival is notorious.

 

Let us try for a moment to put ourselves in the context of the hostile nature which surrounded primitive man. He has no natural weapon. No claws, no sharp spurs, no bright and frightening colors to keep away predators, no shell, carapace or venom, no scales, warm coats or feathers, no rostrum, sharp canines nor hoofs. He is not very good at running. He does not see at night, his smell is rudimentary compared to that of canines or felines. This makes it an ideal prey, which can be even tasty for all carnivores.

 

At its origin therefore, man is the species most threatened of disappearance at first sight.

 

How did he manage not only to survive but to grow and multiply?

 

The explanations are undoubtedly multiple; nevertheless, two essential factors emerge.

 

The first is  intelligence, which is undoubtedly the principal weapon, the most formidable of our species. Intelligence, this specifically human faculty that allows us to remember, anticipate, predict, program, and adapt.

It is one of the most powerful and invisible, undetectable means of attack and defense.

 

This weapon, the man used it first to escape the aggression of its predators most often seeking food.

 

Later, to extend its territory, and make disappear, reduce to slavery, or protect from the majority of the animal species in competition with him.

 

The second is our  sexuality, that also has some peculiarities in comparison with other mammals:

 

For women, it should be noted that they are likely to mate at any point in their cycle, including out of fertility, seven days a week, twenty-four hours a day, with one or more partners.

 

In other animal species, fertility appears to be proportional to the number of individuals in a given space, depending on the resources of the place. Nothing of the sort is apparently observed in man.

 

It also seems that  sexual pleasure as we know it is also a characteristic of the species in man as well as in woman.

The animal has an irrepressible instinct of mating, the cause of which varies according to the species (pheromones).

 

As for the male of the human species, it is subject to sexual desire throughout its adult life, with peculiarities or deviations that historically have had no impact on the growth of the species.

 

Since single-egg pregnancy is the rule, and the human baby is particularly fragile, the survival of the species was conceivable only if no chance of conception and birth were allowed to escape. From this comes with no doubt the conquering instinct of the male, who feels himself titillated as soon as he sees in his vital space a woman, especially if the latter presents secondary sexual characteristics particularly well developed.

 

This is where the long work of seduction begins, which will motivate each and every one, practically throughout his life.

 

Sexuality taken in the couple is of fundamental importance. And still better: sexuality with the pleasure that is bound to it. The couple is no longer only the elementary entity of reproduction, but also of pleasure, of harmony and of love.

 

It happens, however, that sexuality, which is the cement of the couple and the natural complement of Love, suffers “failures”, does not work as it should, and it should be possible to talk about it in order to find solutions. However, sexuality for herself, without the desire for pregnancy, is still today the object of fears and prohibitions related to our past and our culture.

Nevertheless, it is necessary to break taboos, overcome fears and let questions emerge for which doctors, gynecologists, surgeons and sexologists often have an answer.

 

The worst of the mistakes would be to maintain the status quo, leaving guilts and anxieties that can only endorse and perpetuate the dysfunction, even the degradation of the couple.

 

Some of these dysfunctions are psychic, cultural, others are authentically physical, related to childbirth, anatomy, or surgical or accidental changes. Others may come from hormonal imbalances.

Each of these disorders can generate a “dominoes” dysfunction effect.

 

When a grain of sand comes into the chain of pleasure, failure, even if it is unique, will lead to an individual analysis of each partner. This analysis will not always be right, and will ipso facto lead to inadequate consequences.

 

The frequency of these problems, coupled with the ineffectiveness of the analysis in most cases, may explain that so much distress is encountered in couples who, assembled by Love, should have everything they need to be happy for long.

 

This is why specialists have gathered their knowledge to try to study sexual dysfunctions in their globality and to solve them in all their aspects.

 

The pivot of this exercise is the sexologist who on the one hand makes an overall diagnosis and on the other hand helps the couple restart once the solution is found.

 

Finally, the craftsmen of a medical structure are attentive to the most intimate questions, without taboo, and with the most adapted answers so that each one finds his balance in the serenity and the satisfaction of his desires.

 

 

Let’s continue the fight, we could add.

 

For a woman, seducing the object of her desires is a piece of cake. To attract him to bed, to satisfy her inflamed sexual appetite, is more a matter of instinct than of culture or of science, yet that is where it all begins, for the social weaving begins with the creation of the unit: the couple. And creating a couple means doing everything to keep the individual seduced as an exclusive partner.

Let us be both simpler and clearer: it is not enough to take a man to his bed, it is necessary to keep it, or to make him want to return. This seems elementary, but it seems that western women have some shortcomings in this matter, or that they have not thought of everything, or that they have not been taught everything.

 

They have been taught many things, for example, to stay seductive for all, to dress, to style, to make up, to use perfume, to walk, to laugh, to smile, to look, to suggest, to evoke, to suggest. In fact noone really taught them anything. It is the reading of the magazines for adolescent, then for young girls and later for young women who substitutes to the mother for this learning. 
Where is the mother today? She remains a “young woman” precisely, often up to more than 60 years, and thus positions herself an equal or even rival to her daughter. Under these conditions, why would the mother communicate the secrets she has acquired over the years and in the course of experiments…

 

In any case, a “know how” and a “know what to be” in love have been lost in the West over the generations.

 

On the other hand, transmission continues in the more primitive societies, which are often poorer, where the mother at home fully fulfills this role of transmission while giving way to her daughter with regard to seduction — except for the father who is now supposed to remain quietly forever and show an exemplary and exclusive tenderness towards his wife.

 

Why did not they tell the girls about the details of their anatomy?

 

They know very well the seductive power of their eyes and how to make them move. Same thing for the mouth and the smile. Let us not even talk about the explosive effects of a generous cleavage or even suggested breasts as through a tight sweater with the torrid evocative variability of the nipples just visible at the top of this cone of inexhaustible pleasures. Less obvious is the power of the legs and ankles, whose erotic effect on men emerges from the most recent soundings.

 

On the other hand, most do not know how much the physical appearance of their gender can have a positive or negative magnetic effect, linked to several factors.

 

As an aesthetic surgeon, I have been asked to modify the nose, face, eyelids, chin, breasts, belly, buttocks, thighs, and almost never sex, when that is the ultimate goal of seduction with a near obligation not to disappoint?

Can one imagine that the sex of Venus, once conquered, has no longer any importance, and that its conqueror does not care about its appearance, its shape, its hairiness, its musculature, its reactivity, its moisture, its smell, its elasticity under the caress of the fingers or the kisses? What a heresy!!!

 

How can one imagine such a thing?

 

The five senses are concerned in the relationship that man establishes with the sex of his companion or partner. The triviality is not the object of this text, it is nevertheless important to evoke in what way each feeling has its role to play in the attachment of a man for a woman which makes it like no other.

 

Even before sensory contact occurs directly, the male imagination has been solicited by an infinity of details which trigger both the psychic desire and its compulsory and associated parallel, the physical desire, mostly in the form of an erection.

 

The Imaginary will evoke the five aspects of the sensory apprehension of the sex of Venus, and he will attempt during the preliminaries to validate this apprehension. The result of this validation will often depend on the future of the relationship.